His Farmer, My Poet

Who among you have heard the acronym NBSB?...

What does that mean?...(No boyfriend since birth)

It could also mean a Number of Boyfriends Since Birth or Needs Boyfriend Since Birth,

or got the Number1 Boyfriend Since Birth.

But guys seem to be OP with this since NGSB is not as popular as the first one.

My version of NBSB is- NO BELOVED SINCE BIRTH.

So, No BELOVED since birth, who belongs to this club?


Well, there’s no discrimination here anyway since I believe, all of us have qualified to wear that tag which could have just expired earlier than the others while others could have signed a lifetime membership to it.

Nowadays, being one will always have a follow-up question of “WHY?”…

A speaker from one of the camps I’ve attended said that when Adam saw the woman God brought to him, the farmer became a poet! Isn’t that beautiful ladies?...that the moment that man lays his eyes on you, whatever it is that he might be doing- since Adam was sleeping earlier that time right?... he suddenly became Shakespeare!

This is now the bone of my bones,
and flesh of my flesh
She shall be called woman
For she was taken out of man.

Adam was obviously very delighted to have finally seen a perfect companion, Eve became a part of himself right at that moment. Wow!

They didn’t need cupids or bridge- right there and then Adam was united to Eve. Was there a word LOVE used in that encounter?

None, but you see, in the succeeding verses they were called man and his wife. Adam already claimed dominion over the woman when he said; “She shall be called woman!” and later named her Eve in memorializing her significance to him and human race. (Genesis 3:20)

So in that instance, God himself blessed their being one. The most wonderful and grandest wedding I could ever imagine when all species of the animal kingdoms came to witness. Wow! Seeing Your Creator approve of your relationship and face to face bestow His blessings upon you and your beloved!

But what if God was mistaken? What if He had brought the wrong woman, would Adam say; “No Lord, this is not the bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh” At least he was still poetic if ever it would be like that.

But it didn’t happen that way, and I believe it never will. It could have been chaotic, God will make one after another when Adam refuses- there could have been no more ribs left in Adam right? So, was there a collect and collect and after select then?

God’s works are always perfect and that includes our relationships with the opposite sexes- who knew exactly who to make for Adam- the same way He had made Adam for Eve. Was there any compatibility tests before like in internets now that suddenly pops up or computer screens saying; “Looking for the love of you life?” etc. NONE. It was God himself who have designed them to be compatible.

There was a book I have read about a girl who was blonde and short, she kept on asking God why she’s like that, her sisters are all black and tall but she was different. Later on, she came to a place with people who looked exactly like her in where she became a missionary and got married. So see, you might be asking why your appearance is like this and that and not like other women or men you see. That’s exactly your design to match your calling and the person you would be with.

The word “LOVE” nowadays, if CD lang siya or DVD, pirated na! Have you heard a song played from a CD na gasgas na?... Ganu’n siya!...

You’ll no longer be able to get its real message. Well in fact, Adam did not use that word when he proposed to Eve right?... but his words spoke more than a thousand “I love You”s could ever express. Unlike now, after each message I LOVE YOU, there's a tsuppp tsuppp mwah mwah that follows.

He have already expressed his whole being- since I believe Love is not just a feeling… it is being!- Being IN LOVE! Being a BOYFRIEND a GIRLFRIEND… a BELOVED!

If you notice in text messages or verbally – LOVE YOU! Is easily spoken but then there is something missing- where is the subject?... okay, it’s implied- but love you is not as hard as saying “I Love you”.

The “I” itself makes it difficult because it is your being that you give to that person. If somebody sends you that message or tells you that, ask in return “Who loves me?”

Well, 20 years of my life,I am not abnormal not to be attracted or admire anybody from the opposite sex, that somehow I desired to have this certain somebody with me.

In fact, I have prayed for someone for 2 years and just stopped when I’ve learned he already had a GF… it wasn’t easy of course, it was a real struggle! He had his first GF, and he was the girl’s first BF, so, there was a little chance that they’ll break up (although I was not praying for that to happen) because for somebody who’s 22 y/o and had his first relationship- that must be something!

And then I had this question “Did I love that guy?” I can’t answer for that was the wrong question. “What love really is?”…

Even the world got lots and lots of definitions right now, I still didn’t get it. And I got this answer straight from my Father through the book I just saw in book sale, and that very line put in words the definition I have in my heart;

“Love means having to say “I DO!”

..that was just last Dec. 14, 2007! Right that magical moment, I believed it is the one!

So, I bought the book. Translating it in the context of men- Love means having to ask, “Will you marry me?”

My point here is, not until you know in yourself that it is the woman whom you would ask “will you marry me?” then do not attempt at all. Those words entails a lot, you can tell everybody I Love You, but just to one person you would ask that.

The beauty of this season of singleness in my life, aside from what I have learned in nursing that teenage years is the point of finding ones identity and role and because I myself have passed that as well (just a little bit sad that I didn’t even experience a valentines date!) it is when you will learn a lot and would definitely be molded by the Pot maker.

Indeed it takes time- a lot of time! By the moment you’ve met His farmer, it will take you both more than fifty years together!... But God is just asking you some 20 years or more to learn His ways and to prepare you for greater battles ahead and for that lifetime commitment you will make. See?... even keeping you for Him is not for selfish reasons.

I have a diary entry dated December 25, 2007 at 12:21 am while I was in Superferry traveling back to my hometown in Mindanao after 2 years being independent here in Manila- that was Christmas, so I thought of a gift for my Savior and wrote-

“My heart, this I give to You again this day. I have surrendered my everything to you and yet seems my heart is one which I always attempt to get back”

The heart is the center of the human spirit, from which springs emotions, thoughts, motivations, actions. (Psalms 4:7 and Pr. 4:23) relating it to human anatomy, it is the center of your body that pumps blood to all its parts, with the blood, imagine it contains love and everything in you, how heavy could it be! The part of intimacy which is inside my heart is the very one I want to drive myself, and with that, God no longer possesses my whole heart!

Have you experienced giving gifts?... Do you take it back?...

How about doing it to the Lord!... What a shame...

That’s how I felt- for how many times I have attempted to get back my heart from him thinking; Lord, this might be ‘him’…and just gaze upon His clock and be awakened by the red letters boldly saying; “IT’S NOT YET TIME!”

I pictured it this way, my heart is a treasure for Him, He already have in mind kung sino tagapagmana Niya but then He still doesn’t give it to that person not unless he is prepared to take care of it- a lifetime!

So don’t be in a hurry.. ang mana ay hindi basta-basta ipinapamigay!...ganun din ang puso ninyong mga lalaki… pinag-aagawan ang puso ng bawat isa sa atin na nasa kamay ng ating Ama…ang mga babae e pinagpipray din ‘yang mga puso ninyong mga lalaki.and by the time when both of you are geared up, two hearts that matched each other will be given in exchange!

In a conversation with my spiritual Father- my Tatay, I’ve said; “ Sa dinami-dami ng hinhawakan ko ngayon ‘Tay, duties, scholarship, leadership in different areas, etc. Paano ko na lang mahahawakan ang kamay niya?”

So, being single and happy… need not much complication you’ve built your own. You can take care excellently of whatever God placed in your hands and focus on them- on Him! Think of every responsibility as a crystal you must not allow from slipping off your hand and break- not to show off to your Master but to show the word the kind of Trainer you have. You can juggle it anyway you want, and by the time the circus ends, when He gives you a heavy weight, sparklingly special heart of somebody- it is because He’s so sure you deserve it!

“Responsibility begets capacity”… that’s what my Tatay always tells me.

Hindi lahat ng bagay pinapamana at may last will and testament pa. Ang gold, mas mabigat sa silver at bronze- if so, the moment of your singleness and you can only carry light-weight things, you would only be given a heart that matches that strength of yours which you did not allow to increase- but your Heavenly Father wants all the bests for you!... So as long as you can, carry whatever He entrusted to you with both hands because the one He’s also preparing for you is doing the same thing at the moment… and by the minute you empty your one hand and hold another, be sure to hold it like it’s the only one! And at that moment, you could carry heavier loads-just with TWO HANDS from TWO PEOPLE for the next fifty years-together…

His FARMER is the best!... you surely won’t get hungry even when he speaks to you a thousand poetry every moment of your life! And even teach your kids together the best lines that captured your heart- which they will pass on!...

Singleness is just a moment of a lifetime unless you choose to be one… enjoy it while you still have it for you will never experience its beauty the way you will enjoy it while the moment is right!

Does your heart belong to the hands of the Mightiest Love Match Maker?

If not, you are missing a lot!

And you will never discover the

POET in the FARMER

he sent to the field preparing for the future with you!